A recent surge in research is examining the impact of political divides within families, a topic brought to the forefront by a thought-provoking article published by The New York Times and republished by Ekathimerini, titled “I hate my parents’ politics. Should I keep my son away?” Such deeply personal questions resonate with families worldwide, including in Thailand, where shifting social tides and increased political involvement among youth are bringing generational values into sharper conflict.
The article centers on a growing phenomenon—children of all ages struggling to reconcile their own values and beliefs with those of their parents or older relatives. This dynamic has been amplified by polarized political climates and the spread of disinformation through social media. For many, the core dilemma centers on whether to shield children from exposure to grandparents’ or relatives’ views deemed offensive or antithetical to the family’s values. According to a survey by the Pew Research Center, 61% of adults in advanced economies, including Thailand, report having had heated political discussions with family members, with 15% stating they avoid certain relatives altogether because of these disagreements [Pew Research Center].
Experts suggest that political conversations at home are both inevitable and, in some ways, essential opportunities for young people to learn critical thinking. A prominent family therapist cited in The New York Times points out that “cutting off contact as a solution to political conflict not only strains relationships but deprives children of exposure to the complexity of the world.” Research published in the Journal of Family Psychology indicates that children who witness civil yet passionate debate within the family context tend to develop higher emotional intelligence and better negotiation skills [Journal of Family Psychology].
In the Thai context, this issue takes on unique dimensions. With the rise of youth-led social movements and shifting attitudes toward monarchy, democracy, and freedom of speech, many Thai families find themselves navigating unprecedented intergenerational divides. A senior lecturer in social psychology at a major Thai university notes, “Thai children and parents may hold vastly different values regarding social hierarchy, expression, and traditional norms. The challenge is to maintain family harmony while respecting individual beliefs.”
Cultural expectations of “kreng jai,” or deference and respect toward elders, further complicate these debates. Some Thai parents believe that shielding children from conflicting views protects them, while others advocate for openness. According to a Bangkok-based child psychologist, “It’s important for Thai families to model respectful disagreement. Children who learn to navigate differences at home are better equipped to engage constructively in wider society.”
Recent studies in cross-cultural parenting underscore the risks of isolating children from relatives with divergent beliefs. A 2023 study published in Child Development found that children who maintain regular contact with extended family—even amid differing viewpoints—display greater adaptability and social empathy than those whose family ties are restricted due to ideological conflict [Child Development].
For Thai families, there is a growing recognition that society is more politically diverse and digitally interconnected than ever before. While concerns over polarizing influence are understandable—especially in light of Thailand’s recent political protests and their coverage on social platforms—experts stress that avoidance is not the only option. Instead, intentional conversation and guided exposure can foster understanding. As a clinical child psychiatrist at a leading Bangkok hospital explains, “Keeping children in a social and ideological bubble may create more anxiety and limit their ability to relate to the broader community.”
Globally and locally, experts recommend several practical steps for parents struggling with similar dilemmas. First, families should set boundaries around discussions that become heated or disrespectful. Second, parents can offer their children tools to analyze and question information, rather than outright blocking family contact. Third, role modeling empathy—by acknowledging, rather than vilifying, differing views—can soften the emotional tenor of family gatherings.
Looking ahead, the research suggests that Thailand, like many nations, will continue to grapple with questions of identity, tradition, and change within the home. As dialogue deepens and diversity of views becomes more visible, Thai parents and guardians are advised to focus less on avoidance and more on cultivating resilience in children. Education, communication, and empathy are key. By embracing these strategies, families can foster both strong relationships and informed, open-minded citizens—continuing a uniquely Thai journey through turbulent political waters.
For Thai readers seeking guidance, experts suggest starting small: encourage open-ended questions, prioritize respect over agreement, and seek professional counsel when family rifts feel intractable. Most importantly, remember that differences, when engaged with compassion and curiosity, can be a source of growth rather than division.
Sources:
- Ekathimerini: “I hate my parents’ politics. Should I keep my son away?”
- The New York Times: Parenting and Political Divides
- Pew Research Center: Global Public Opinion in an Era of Democratic Anxiety
- Journal of Family Psychology: Family Political Disagreement
- Child Development: Family Ties and Socio-political Empathy