In a candid TikTok confession that has quickly gained traction among parents and educators, a former middle school teacher has revealed the four things she most wished she could have told parents about the daily realities faced by their children in school. The honest advice, reported by Scary Mommy, shines a spotlight on hygiene and puberty—a pair of topics often overlooked in both Thai and international classrooms, but critically linked to student well-being and social development (https://www.scarymommy.com/parenting/former-teacher-reveals-things-she-wished-she-couldve-told-parents).
The significance of the teacher’s revelations for Thai parents lies in their universality: while the comments originated in an American context, the uncomfortable truths about adolescent hygiene, peer scrutiny, and the need for supportive parental involvement resonate across cultures. In Thailand, where family reputation and social harmony are highly valued, the embarrassment that children feel over appearance or hygiene in the school setting can be compounded by social stigmas. Addressing these issues proactively empowers children to navigate school with greater confidence and can prevent both health-related problems and social distress.
According to former 6th grade teacher and educational content creator, the most pressing concern was the lack of attention given to children’s hygiene, starting with a simple but critical request: keep your child’s fingernails trimmed and clean. “If your kids’ nails are long and dirty, other kids are noticing and also it is gross, kids literally get impetigo from their own fingernails,” she explained. Impetigo is a contagious skin infection common among schoolchildren and can be prevented through basic personal hygiene, underscoring a health message that applies globally and is echoed by Thai pediatric associations and public health officials (https://www.cdc.gov/healthyschools/npao/hygiene.htm).
The teacher’s second piece of advice was to introduce deodorant use earlier than many parents anticipate. She remarked, “Please start putting deodorant on your kids before you notice that they need it. Fifth grade, guys, fifth grade, deodorant.” Puberty’s onset is increasingly occurring at younger ages—a trend supported by research published in The Lancet and confirmed by observations from Thai physicians in paediatric practice (https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lancet/article/PIIS0140-6736(23)00008-8/fulltext). Early puberty can bring about body odor and other physical changes before many students or parents are emotionally prepared to address them.
Third, the teacher urged parents to consider training bras for girls going through puberty—again emphasizing that social protection from teasing or bullying matters greatly at this age. “No one wants to be made fun of because it looks like they should be wearing a bra and they’re not,” she emphasized. This resonates with findings from UNICEF and Ministry of Education in Thailand, which report that teasing over physical development can erode a child’s self-esteem and inhibit classroom participation (https://www.unicef.org/thailand/education).
The fourth tip focused on outerwear: regularly washing the jackets or sweatshirts a child favors, items that often become overlooked despite daily use. She recounted observing pupils “wiping their snot on the jacket sleeve day after day after day,” a detail that some may find uncomfortable but which highlights the risk of communicable disease spread—elements the Thai Ministry of Public Health addresses each year in “5 ส.” campaigns for school hygiene (https://www.moph.go.th/).
Reactions to the teacher’s advice were mixed, with some viewers expressing concern that candid discussions around hygiene might encourage bullying. Most, however, agreed that openly discussing these topics with parents could help children avoid unnecessary embarrassment. “To parents saying they don’t want their kids to bend to social norms, I hear you. But your elementary aged child is paying a price for YOUR protest that YOU don’t have to face,” said another fellow teacher in the article’s comments section (https://www.scarymommy.com/parenting/former-teacher-reveals-things-she-wished-she-couldve-told-parents).
For Thai schools—where social integration, group activities, and traditional customs such as daily flag ceremonies and school lunch programs bring children into constant contact—personal hygiene is not just a personal matter but one of community health and cultural values. Thai educators routinely address hygiene in school health classes, yet teachers often lack the authority or framework to directly discuss sensitive matters like puberty or body odor with parents.
Social stigma around personal appearance remains deeply rooted in Thai society, with family reputation closely tied to a child’s behavior and presentation in public. According to the Thai National Institute for Child and Family Development, failure to meet social expectations can lead to isolation or teasing—a phenomenon backed by studies from Chulalongkorn University examining the effects of bullying in Thai classrooms (https://www.tcithaijo.org/index.php/journal_pe/article/view/250766).
Looking to the future, there is growing consensus among educators, both in Thailand and abroad, that open communication between parents, teachers, and children is key to supporting healthy adolescent development. Experts from the World Health Organization recommend starting “age-appropriate hygiene education” by grade four or five and suggest routine parental engagement on the topic to destigmatize important health conversations (https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/adolescent-health).
Actionable recommendations for Thai parents include setting a regular schedule for nail trimming, introducing deodorant and personal hygiene products before adolescence, ensuring that commonly worn clothing is washed weekly, and providing supportive undergarments in age-appropriate styles. Regular discussion about these matters can help children prepare for and cope with the challenges of early adolescence. Most importantly, parents are urged to approach such conversations with sensitivity—acknowledging the social realities children face while preserving their dignity and confidence.
Parents seeking further guidance are encouraged to consult school nurses, homeroom teachers, or child development center staff for culturally sensitive advice on puberty and hygiene, and to utilize government resources such as the Thai Ministry of Public Health’s website for up-to-date recommendations on student wellness (https://www.moph.go.th).
In summary, while a former teacher’s viral honesty has sparked debate, it has also prompted necessary reflection on the responsibilities parents and educators share in protecting children’s health and social development. Addressing these issues head-on is an investment not only in individual children, but in a healthier, more confident next generation for Thailand.