A new personality type is making waves in the world of child psychology: the ‘otrovert’. Recently introduced by psychiatrist Dr. Rami Kaminski in his latest book, “The Gift of Not Belonging,” the otrovert describes children who thrive in one-on-one interactions but feel alienated or uncomfortable in larger groups—a concept distinct from the more familiar categories of introversion and extroversion. As parents and educators in Thailand continue to seek a better understanding of children’s social needs, this new research sheds light on how some children may chart their own unique path through social development.
For many Thai families, understanding a child’s social personality is seen as essential to ensuring their happiness and success—both at school and later in life. Traditionally, children are encouraged to join group activities, whether through communal sports, classroom teamwork, or temple-based youth programs. However, Dr. Kaminski’s research, covered in detail by HuffPost UK, suggests that some children may not fit comfortably into group-focused environments, prompting important questions about how best to support their growth (huffingtonpost.co.uk).
So what exactly is an ‘otrovert’? According to Dr. Kaminski, otroverts are neither energized by frequent socializing like extroverts, nor drained by it like introverts; rather, they lack a communal impulse and connect most comfortably in one-on-one settings. They may be described as “neurotypical, friendly, curious, well-adjusted, and often popular”, yet consistently resist being pressured into group activities. This unique preference, Dr. Kaminski argues, should be recognized and respected as part of normal personality diversity.
The research highlights nine key signs that a child might be an otrovert: a preference for adult company over peer groups; curiosity and inventiveness; an individual learning style often mismatched with traditional school structures; fluid social dynamics marked by popularity but a lack of group conformity; a marked need for solitude; discomfort with organized group activities; generosity and emotional sensitivity; caution and risk aversion; and difficulty adapting to environmental changes. For example, rather than being shy or withdrawn, otrovert children may be highly articulate and liked by adults, ask insightful questions, and excel in areas that align with their interests. Yet, they are often misinterpreted as anti-social or isolated when, in fact, they simply need time alone to recharge after social exposure.
These findings are especially relevant in the Thai context, where social harmony (santiphab), group consensus (pak kong), and family reputation (siang rok) play significant roles in child-rearing and education. The tendency to favor conformity over individual expression can create challenges for otrovert children, who naturally resist group identity. As one Thai child psychiatry specialist from a leading Bangkok hospital noted, “It is important to distinguish between social withdrawal due to emotional difficulty, and a healthy preference for deeper, individual connections. Otroverts, as Dr. Kaminski describes, should not be pathologized or pressured to change.”
Parents often notice otrovert signs early, especially in educational settings. According to Dr. Kaminski, by the age of two, toddlers begin to socialize with others, and by four, they recognize cultural expectations about group membership. However, some children, he asserts, simply “cannot be compelled to belong to a group”. While introverted children may shy away from all social interaction, otroverts actively seek meaningful, one-on-one relationships—sometimes with adults rather than peers—and commonly display a maturity beyond their years. These children may avoid drama, focus deeply on passions, and refuse to engage in status-driven peer dynamics.
This personality type becomes more pronounced during adolescence, when pressure to conform typically intensifies. “Membership in a group, no matter how lowly, is better than being an outsider,” Dr. Kaminski observes. “Otroverts, however, are comfortable with being outsiders and find it impossible to feel like insiders, regardless of how welcome they are.” Rather than adapting to peer norms simply to fit in, otroverts maintain their individuality—often at the cost of feeling misunderstood by others. This resonates with many Thai parents, who increasingly report concerns about whether their children’s reluctance to participate in group-based activities could indicate underlying social or emotional issues.
Developmental psychologists emphasize that such fears are often unfounded. “The otrovert is not anti-social,” asserts a Bangkok-based educational psychologist, “but selectively social. When supported appropriately, these children are often creative, empathetic, and excel in independent learning environments.” The research notes that otrovert children tend to thrive academically and emotionally when their preferences are validated, not suppressed.
The article also offers practical advice for families and educators. Instead of compelling otrovert children to join group activities, adults are encouraged to observe and respect each child’s social comfort zone. Facilitating opportunities for deep, one-on-one friendships is key, as is celebrating the unique strengths of otroverts—especially their independence, risk aversion, and emotional self-reliance. “Your otrovert child will flourish academically, socially, and personally when allowed to be themselves,” Dr. Kaminski advises. He urges parents to trust their children’s instincts about what environments suit them best, rather than pushing experiences that provoke distress.
For Thailand’s education system—often characterized by standardized curricula and large classrooms—these insights may prompt calls for more flexible, student-centered learning models. With Thai students increasingly exposed to modernization, digital learning, and global perspectives, educators are being challenged to recognize and nurture a wider diversity of personality types. Alternative approaches, such as individualized project work, mentorship, and small-group learning, may better support otroverted children.
The otrovert concept also fosters empathy and tolerance within Thai society, emphasizing that the value of “social harmony” need not come at the expense of personal well-being. In Buddhist teaching, individuality and self-awareness are celebrated as pathways to wisdom (panya). Encouraging an environment where all children can express their authentic selves aligns with these deeper cultural values.
Looking ahead, further research is needed to explore how otrovert tendencies evolve into adulthood, and how they may shape professional, familial, and social relationships later in life. Internationally, psychologists are now beginning to study how otrovert traits intersect with neurodiversity, resilience, and creative achievement. In Thailand, where rapid social change is reshaping childhood experience, recognizing different paths to social fulfillment will be a vital part of supporting the next generation.
For parents and educators, the actionable takeaway is clear: Observe, listen, and accept each child’s social preferences without judgment. Rather than interpreting a reluctance for group activities as cause for concern, see it as an opportunity to honor individuality. By creating safe spaces for solitude, deep one-on-one connections, and independent learning, Thai adults can help otrovert children realize their full potential—on their own unique terms.
For more about the otrovert personality type and tips for parenting, the full article can be accessed at HuffPost UK. Dr. Rami Kaminski’s book, “The Gift of Not Belonging: How Outsiders Thrive in a World of Joiners,” is now available for pre-order.