A recent trend highlighted by global media has seen more fathers stepping away from traditional career paths to become stay-at-home dads, as families seek arrangements that best suit their needs in a changing world. An article published by Business Insider features the personal story of a man who left his “dream job” to care for his children full-time, while his wife became the family’s primary breadwinner. The couple reports that the switch has been the best decision for their family, bringing new perspectives on work-life balance, gender roles, and parenting satisfaction.
In Thailand, these conversations resonate as more families grapple with the realities of dual-income households, the cost of childcare, and evolving attitudes towards gender equality. The traditional expectation often places breadwinning responsibility on fathers and caregiving on mothers. However, recent years have seen a gradual shift, driven by both economic factors and social change. Data from the National Statistical Office (NSO) shows an increase in Thai women participating in the formal workforce, especially in metropolitan areas such as Bangkok, Chiang Mai, and Phuket, where dual-income families are rapidly becoming the norm. As women’s employment rises, some Thai households are reconsidering who should take on the role of primary caregiver.
The idea that a stay-at-home dad arrangement could be optimal for some families is supported by research from international and regional sources. A study published in The Lancet demonstrated that active involvement by fathers in early childhood positively impacts children’s cognitive, emotional, and social development (The Lancet). Locally, some education and child welfare professionals with the Department of Women’s Affairs and Family Development have noted an emerging willingness among Thai fathers to play more significant roles in daily childcare—though these remain in the minority.
One veteran family psychologist from a well-known university in Bangkok explained in a telephone interview, “Traditional Thai culture often discourages men from overtly domestic roles, but as Thai society becomes more urbanized and gender-equal, we are seeing a small but significant rise in fathers staying home—especially if it maximizes the family’s overall well-being.” He cited logistical factors such as expensive urban childcare, the COVID-19 pandemic’s impact on employment patterns, and shifting perceptions of masculinity as main drivers.
According to a 2023 survey by the Thai Health Promotion Foundation, just 7% of Thai fathers described themselves as the main caretakers for their children, up from less than 3% a decade earlier (ThaiHealth). While still a small figure, this gradual increase reflects broader global trends and signals a tide of change.
While such arrangements can offer rewards—including improved family bonds and a new appreciation for parenting—they are not without challenges. Some stay-at-home fathers in Thailand describe feelings of social isolation and occasional criticism from extended family or community members unaccustomed to the reversal of traditional roles. A faculty member specializing in gender studies at a major public university’s Faculty of Sociology said, “Men face a unique pressure in Thailand when they step outside expected gender roles. It’s critical for supportive conversations in both communities and workplaces to allow families to choose what works best for them.” He emphasized that open dialogue and the promotion of flexible work policies are necessary to accommodate family-based decisions.
Traditional Thai proverbs such as “the father is the pillar of the house” continue to influence expectations in many provinces, though urban areas tend to show more progressive attitudes. As Thailand approaches targets outlined in its Gender Equality Act (2015) and related Sustainable Development Goals, more government and private sector initiatives to support work-life balance—such as paternal leave, flexible hours, and greater societal acceptance—are expected.
Looking ahead, experts predict that the number of stay-at-home dads will rise slowly but steadily in Thailand, especially as employers expand remote work opportunities and economic pressures continue to challenge conventional household models. Research from the Organisation for Economic Co-operation and Development (OECD) suggests that gender-equal parental leave policies, where both fathers and mothers share caregiving, can boost both family resilience and national productivity (OECD Parental Leave Policy Brief).
For Thai families considering new parenting arrangements, experts recommend open discussions among partners about financial, emotional, and practical needs. Child development specialists recommend that active involvement by either parent—mother or father—should be celebrated and supported by families, schools, and the wider community.
As conversations about modern Thai parenthood continue to evolve, the most important lesson may be that there is no single “right way” to raise a family. What matters most, according to local education officials, is that the arrangement fits the unique strengths and circumstances of each household—whether that means a stay-at-home dad, a mom who works outside the home, or any other combination.
For those considering a similar transition, practical steps include reviewing family finances, exploring local networks of stay-at-home parents, and seeking support from employers on flexible work arrangements. Thai families should also be encouraged to share their stories, helping to create a more inclusive public discourse that recognizes and values all forms of caregiving.
Anyone interested in learning more can consult resources from UNICEF Thailand, the Department of Women’s Affairs and Family Development, or reputable parenting organizations.
Sources:
- Business Insider: I quit my dream job to be a stay-at-home dad, while my wife works full time. It’s the best arrangement for us.
- The Lancet: Father involvement in early childhood development and the potential for reducing inequalities
- ThaiHealth: Thai Health Promotion Foundation
- OECD Parental Leave Policy Brief