#Bullying

A popular parenting column described an 11-year-old girl who wants a side-shave haircut. (Slate reported the column and the family conflict.) (Slate column)

The column asked whether parents should let the child decide. (The advice columnist urged support with safeguards.) (Slate column)

The case matters for parents in Thailand. (Thai families also face school teasing and social pressure.) (UNESCO data shows peer violence in many countries.) (UNESCO report)

The central dilemma is simple to name. (Parents weigh a child’s autonomy against the risk of bullying.) (Experts call this a common parenting conflict.)

The modern parenting dilemma crystallized in vivid detail when an advice columnist received a letter about an 11-year-old girl demanding a radical side-shave haircut. The mother worried about potential bullying while the father insisted their daughter should learn from her own choices, creating a family standoff that mirrors countless Thai households grappling with similar questions about children’s self-expression and social consequences.

The Universal Struggle Thai Families Know Well

For Thai parents, this scenario resonates deeply across cultural lines. School environments throughout Thailand present unique challenges where peer pressure intersects with traditional expectations about appearance and conformity. Recent national surveys reveal that nearly half of Thai students experience some form of bullying, with appearance-based teasing representing a significant portion of these incidents.

A growing number of people today are wondering, “Why is everyone so mean to me?” This modern lament resonates across social media, classrooms, workplaces and even family settings. Recent research by psychologists and mental health experts suggests there are complex reasons why individuals may perceive—they or truly experience—rudeness, hostility and exclusion from others. Understanding the psychology behind perceived meanness reveals both the hidden causes and promising strategies for coping, with direct significance for Thai readers navigating rapidly changing social and cultural landscapes.

A recent wave of parental advice circulating online has reignited a heated debate over whether children should hit back when provoked, challenging decades-old practices in child-rearing and school etiquette. The conversation has gained traction after a mother shared her controversial stance through a viral TikTok video, insisting that while her children should never hit first, they are encouraged to defend themselves physically if struck by another child. The issue has drawn fierce reactions—dividing parents, teachers, and child development experts—while raising important questions about conflict resolution and child safety in Thailand’s classrooms and playgrounds.

Early experiences of social exclusion may have far-reaching consequences on individuals’ psychological wellbeing and future personality development, according to new research reported by PsyPost. The study, which investigates the knock-on effects of childhood social rejection, reveals that not only does exclusion increase loneliness, but it is also linked to a rise in characteristics known collectively as the “Dark Triad”: narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy. These findings could have significant implications for educators, parents, and policymakers in Thailand, where social harmony and group integration are held in high cultural regard.

The uncomfortable reality that sometimes a parent must face is not that their child is being bullied, but that their child is the bully. A recent article in The Times, “The last parenting taboo: admitting your child is the bully,” illuminates this often unspoken aspect of parenting, drawing on personal accounts, research studies, and insights from leading anti-bullying experts to challenge families and educators to confront the issue with honesty and practical strategies (The Times).

A growing body of research suggests that children who bully others share more similarities with their victims than commonly thought, with both groups facing heightened risks of anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and even future difficulties in adulthood. This pattern also holds true in Thailand, where bullying—whether in the classroom, online gaming communities, or even at home—remains a persistent challenge, deeply intertwined with the nation’s education and mental health systems.

The latest findings highlighted by a Clemson University psychology professor reveal that traditional bullying (physical or verbal aggression in person) and cyberbullying (harassment via digital platforms) often overlap, amplifying the negative outcomes for all children involved. Both bullies and victims are more likely to suffer poor academic performance, increased absenteeism, and, alarmingly, higher rates of suicidal thoughts. “It’s bidirectional,” reports the Clemson researcher, who explains that a child’s mental health troubles both set the stage for bullying behavior and are worsened by involvement in bullying, no matter the role (Deseret News).