#Childbehavior

In Thai households, visiting children can push boundaries and strain ordinary routines. Experts say clear, compassionate limits protect both the host family and the visiting child, offering stability in homes where multiple households meet and mingle.

Children arriving with stress from family disruptions may act out or resist authority. Psychologists describe this as a normal reaction to competing family ecosystems, each with its own rules and emotional climates. For Thai families, kreng jai and a strong sense of community add a layer of sensitivity when setting boundaries.

When dealing with difficult behavior from children who are not your own—such as the kids of close friends—many adults feel torn between compassion and the need to protect their own mental health. This familiar dilemma, highlighted in a recent advice column in The New York Times (nytimes.com), delves into how parents and caregivers can manage the emotional burden of spending time with other families’ children, particularly when those children’s experiences—such as divorce or emotional instability at home—manifest in unpredictable or rough behavior.

In living rooms across Thailand, a familiar scene unfolds with increasing frequency: exhausted parents finding themselves overwhelmed by visiting children whose behavior seems to clash dramatically with their own household expectations. Recent psychological research reveals that this challenge—managing difficult conduct from friends’ or relatives’ children while preserving family harmony—represents one of modern parenting’s most complex emotional negotiations, particularly in Thai society where cultural values of kreng jai and community interconnectedness create additional layers of sensitivity around setting necessary limits.

A wave of new research challenges the idea that misbehavior rests mainly with children. Instead, experts emphasize the pivotal role of parents and how upbringing shapes behavior. This trend, echoed by scientific studies across 2025, suggests family dynamics—parental attitudes, actions, and discipline methods—greatly influence a child’s conduct. The findings are prompting renewed reflection among Thai families and educators who have long leaned toward strict discipline.

Historically, child misbehavior has been seen as a matter of will or character. Recent international studies, however, indicate behaviors are significantly shaped by the home environment. The argument is that parental behavior and emotional climate can map directly onto a child’s conduct and well-being. Notably, a media feature from a major British outlet highlighted experts who warn against blaming children in isolation and call for examining parenting patterns instead.