#Comparisons

A leading psychologist has issued a stark warning to couples, highlighting a seemingly common but deeply destructive phrase that can deeply corrode romantic relationships: “Why can’t you be more like [insert other person’s name]?” This message, often delivered in moments of frustration or conflict, is flagged as one of the most toxic forms of communication, known in the psychological community as the “death-by-comparison” effect. Experts say this phrase, and the mindset behind it, can undermine trust, erode self-esteem, and ultimately destroy the intimate bond between partners, according to recent reports and expert commentary published by the Daily Mail (dailymail.co.uk).

A leading psychologist warns that a simple, often spoken line—“Why can’t you be more like [someone else]?”—can quietly wreck romantic relationships. This tirade, delivered in moments of frustration, is identified in mental health circles as a form of toxic communication known as the “death-by-comparison” effect. Experts say such phrases undermine trust, lower self-esteem, and erode the emotional bond couples share.

The message comes at a time when couples in Thailand and worldwide face mounting social pressures. In the digital era, social media often presents curated images of others’ relationships, amplifying cravings for perfection. For Thai couples navigating traditional expectations and modern relationship dynamics, understanding the impact of harmful comparisons is increasingly important to maintain family harmony and emotional security.