Psychologist Warns Against Destructive Comparisons in Relationships: The ‘Death-by-Comparison’ Effect
A leading psychologist has issued a stark warning to couples, highlighting a seemingly common but deeply destructive phrase that can deeply corrode romantic relationships: “Why can’t you be more like [insert other person’s name]?” This message, often delivered in moments of frustration or conflict, is flagged as one of the most toxic forms of communication, known in the psychological community as the “death-by-comparison” effect. Experts say this phrase, and the mindset behind it, can undermine trust, erode self-esteem, and ultimately destroy the intimate bond between partners, according to recent reports and expert commentary published by the Daily Mail (dailymail.co.uk).