#GentleParenting

As parenting philosophies continue to evolve with shifting social landscapes, a new trend is emerging in Western parenting rhetoric: the rediscovery—or reinvention—of firmer boundaries and heightened consequences over the once-dominant gentle approach. Recent coverage, including the Wall Street Journal’s widely shared article “Goodbye Gentle Parenting, Hello ‘F—Around and Find Out’” (The Wall Street Journal), has placed a spotlight on this cultural pivot. This shift, widely dubbed “FAFO parenting” (an acronym for “F—Around and Find Out”), describes a move away from prioritising gentle adjustments and endless patience towards letting children experience natural consequences—sometimes sharply—of their actions.

As the long Thai school holidays approach, a wave of questions arises about the way parents handle everyday misbehavior in young children. A recent discussion ignited by the article “Why shouldn’t we call children ‘naughty’?” from The Spectator challenges the conventional wisdom of using labels like “naughty” to describe children’s bad behavior. The apparent simplicity of the term belies its potential to shape a child’s developing sense of self and influence the way children respond to authority, discipline, and emotional challenges—not just in Western societies but also within Thai families adjusting to modern parenting philosophies.

A recent column by a retired psychotherapist in The Mercury News has reignited an ongoing debate on the efficacy of ‘gentle parenting’—an approach that emphasizes empathy and connection rather than punishment—particularly for parents struggling with toddlers who display aggressive behaviors such as hitting. The expert argues that while gentle parenting techniques prioritize the development of conscience, empathy, and emotional regulation, accumulating research now suggests these strategies may fall short when tackling persistent or physically aggressive misbehavior in young children. This timely question has global resonance and is particularly significant in Thailand, where parenting traditions, disciplinary norms, and family structures are rapidly changing.

In a significant shift away from the punitive discipline methods familiar to older generations, the concept of “gentle parenting” is rapidly gaining popularity among parents worldwide—including many in Thailand. According to recent research highlighted by CNN, this approach champions emotional regulation, empathetic boundary-setting, and a move toward raising well-adjusted, resilient adults, offering fresh insights into what truly benefits children and families in a changing society (CNN).

The trend has significant implications at a time when nearly half of parents, per a 2023 Pew Research Center report, say they are intentionally trying to raise their children differently than how they were brought up. The shift is rooted in a desire to provide more love and affection, conduct honest conversations, and adopt discipline methods that prioritize listening and emotional understanding over yelling and corporal punishment. This approach resonates in Thai households as conversations about parenting styles become more public and nuanced, especially in urban centers where exposure to international child development research is increasing.

A new wave of parenting advice and research is shifting the conversation on child discipline away from the old routines of yelling, power struggles, and punitive punishments. Recent insights—such as those summarized in a widely shared Times of India feature on “10 ways to discipline kids without drama”—echo a growing international and Thai trend toward positive discipline, advocating calm, constructive, and emotionally supportive methods. This shift is not merely a lifestyle fad, but increasingly grounded in research and real-world outcomes that appeal to parents, educators, and policymakers seeking to foster emotionally resilient, responsible children.

A wave of change is sweeping through parenting strategies worldwide, and Thailand is no exception. “Gentle parenting”—a term gaining popularity on social media platforms—has emerged as a favored approach among a growing segment of parents. Recent studies, as reported in a CNN health article, shed light on what gentle parenting actually means, debunk common misconceptions, and explore its potential benefits and challenges for families—especially those eager to nurture resilience and emotional intelligence in their children.

Recent discussions on parenting have reignited interest in the methods used by earlier generations, sparking a debate about the timeless wisdom embedded in so-called “old-school” parenting approaches. While contemporary “gentle parenting” strategies have gained significant popularity, recent media coverage, including a widely shared article from YourTango, highlights how many traditional parenting methods still offer valuable insights for today’s families (YourTango). This renewed conversation is especially relevant as Thai parents examine the shifting landscape of family life and child development in the digital age.

A viral video by an American kindergarten teacher has reignited debate on early childhood discipline, with a focus on one simple word: “No.” The teacher, who recently spoke out on social media, expressed frustration that many children enter school without understanding or respecting boundaries, blaming shifts in modern parenting for difficulty in classroom management. The video, which swiftly gathered more than 326,000 views on TikTok, has triggered global discussion on the best ways to prepare children for the structure of school—an issue with important implications for Thai parents and educators.