#Lifeskills

The oft-repeated career advice to “follow your passion” may sound uplifting, but mounting research reveals it can actually set people up for disappointment, inflexibility, and even economic hardship. As this philosophy saturates commencement speeches, motivational seminars, and social media, a growing group of psychologists and workplace researchers are urging a deeper, more practical approach to career fulfillment—especially for those in Thailand navigating education and job markets shaped by rapid technological change and economic uncertainty.

A growing number of university professors in the United States are raising alarms about a worrying trend among today’s students: many young adults are arriving at university without essential life skills, due to parenting styles that prioritize protection over independence. This issue, highlighted in a recent Slate advice column where an anonymous professor described students “who have never been allowed to solve a problem themselves,” is resonating with educators and mental health professionals worldwide, and holds crucial lessons for Thai parents and educators facing similar cultural shifts.

A fresh wave of research is shedding light on an age-old instinct: fathers possess a “dad instinct” hardwired to prepare their children for the challenges beyond the family home, playing a critical but often underappreciated role in launching the next generation into confident independence. The findings, summarized recently by a popular fatherhood writer in an article titled “The Dad Instinct: How Fathers Prepare Kids for the Wider World,” draw on anthropology, sociology, and developmental psychology to show that the ways fathers interact with their children are universal, deliberate, and deeply relevant for families in Thailand and worldwide.

As Thai teens prepare to step outside the comforts of home and into the wider world, new research and global commentary are converging on a single point: academic success is no longer sufficient for thriving in adulthood. A recent article by The Times of India highlights eight vital life skills every teenager should master before leaving home, affirming a trend reflected in research across Asia and international educational frameworks (Times of India). These skills—ranging from practical habits like cooking and punctuality to deeper competencies such as emotional regulation and the art of graceful disagreement—are increasingly recognized as the bedrock of personal responsibility and social participation.

A striking new trend in China, known as “reverse parenting,” is capturing attention worldwide as children take the reins of household responsibilities, preparing meals, cleaning, and even shopping for groceries — all while their parents look on with approval. This shift challenges traditional family roles and is backed by educators and mental health experts who argue that giving children more responsibility can instill independence, self-sufficiency, empathy, and discipline (News18; South China Morning Post (SCMP); India Today).

As parents in Thailand prepare their children for adulthood, new international research highlights a crucial question: Beyond academic exams, what life skills should an 18-year-old truly possess to thrive independently? This issue has gained fresh urgency with the publication of a recent essay in The Globe and Mail, inspired by psychologist Martin Seligman’s findings on youth development and a practical checklist developed by a former Stanford University dean. The message is clear: Modern youth, whether in Canada or Thailand, risk missing key lessons in self-sufficiency if parents continue to do everything for them.