#Parentification

A recent wave of psychology commentary is sounding alarms about a growing dynamic in families worldwide: children stepping into adult roles to shoulder emotional or practical burdens for their parents. In a recent discussion about parentification, experts warn that when kids take on responsibilities that aren’t developmentally appropriate, the effects can ripple across school, friendships, sleep, and long-term mental health. For Thai families, where close-knit households and intergenerational care are common, the risk can feel particularly relevant. The concern centers on a simple truth: warmth and closeness between parents and children are healthy only when boundaries allow children to grow, explore friendships, and learn from their own mistakes. When a child becomes a caregiver, mediator, or therapist to a stressed parent, that boundary blurs. The child may end up juggling roles that belong to adults, and the consequences can show up as emotional strain, physical symptoms, and difficulties down the road in intimate relationships or personal development.

Recent discussions among Thai families highlight a growing challenge: teenagers taking on parenting duties for younger siblings. A segment from a well-known podcast on caregiving illustrated a parent coping with two teens acting as disciplinarians for a four-year-old. Psychologists warn that parentification can affect both the older children and the younger one, with implications for households across Thailand.

Parentification occurs when an older sibling gains genuine parental authority, typically when parents are overwhelmed or age gaps are large. Data summarized by major health institutes in the United States show that while sibling bonds can be positive, crossing developmental boundaries may create problems for everyone involved. In Thailand, where multi-generational homes are common and older children are often asked to help, such dynamics can escalate quickly. Culturally, deference to elder siblings is woven into language and daily life, but when teens begin setting rules, guiding discipline, or serving as emotional confidants for parents, experts warn that boundaries are shifting. A broad overview of parentification notes that routine chores and caregiving are acceptable to a point, but the emotional burden placed on teenagers can be harmful.

As Thai families increasingly span wider age gaps between children, a modern parenting conundrum is emerging: teenagers taking on the parental role over much younger siblings, especially toddlers. A recent episode of Slate’s acclaimed “Care and Feeding” parenting podcast brought this issue into sharp focus, featuring a parent struggling with two teens who have set themselves up as disciplinarians over their four-year-old sibling. Experts warn this blurring of roles—known in psychology as “parentification”—may have long-term consequences for both the child and the adolescent family members, with important implications for Thai households experiencing similar dynamics (slate.com).