#PersonalDevelopment

A man who claims to have “slept with 1,000 women” has made headlines by publicly expressing regret over his past lifestyle, citing significant negative impacts on his mental health. The candid admission, which has sparked widespread debate on social media and within health circles, highlights the often-overlooked psychological consequences linked to compulsive sexual behavior, particularly among men navigating cultural and social expectations.

The individual, whose personal story was reported in LADbible and has since gone viral, described his former approach to relationships as being driven by the pursuit of numbers rather than genuine connection. While this so-called “playboy lifestyle” is often celebrated or idealized in popular media, especially for men, his experience has exposed the hollow aftermath, including feelings of emptiness, loneliness, and persistent anxiety.

A growing body of psychological research is helping decode the subtle yet significant behaviors that indicate deep-seated insecurity—often lurking beneath a surface of confidence or apparent indifference. According to a recent evidence-backed report, eight telltale signs can signal when someone is grappling with insecurity without even realizing it—a finding that holds implications not only for personal wellbeing but also for Thai workplaces, schools, and families.

Insecurity, as described by psychologists, refers to a persistent sense of inadequacy that unconsciously guides thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. In Thailand, where the value of “face” and social harmony often shape daily interactions, these hidden patterns may take on distinctive forms and consequences. Many individuals believe they are merely being themselves, but their repeated ways of reacting to feedback, comparison, relationships, or praise can reflect a deeper struggle for self-worth.

The principle of self-reliance stands as a central pillar in Buddhism, shaping not only the core of religious practice but also cultural attitudes in Thai society. This teaching, which is grounded in the Buddha’s encouragement that individuals take responsibility for their own actions and inner development, remains relevant in modern Thai life amid rapid social changes and ongoing spiritual quests.

Buddhist self-reliance, or “attāhi attano nātho” (one is one’s own refuge), is rooted in the historical context of the Buddha’s own life in ancient India. According to the Pali Canon, the Buddha repeatedly emphasized that liberation from suffering cannot be outsourced or bestowed by outsiders—such as deities, spirits, or even the Buddha himself—but must be achieved through cultivating wisdom, ethical conduct, and mental discipline personally (Watnyanaves.net). This foundational teaching has permeated Thai Buddhism for centuries and continues to inform both monastic and lay practice.

Imagine paying for a concert ticket, then waking up on the day of the event feeling sick as a tropical downpour soaks the city. Logic suggests you should stay home—your health is at risk, and the rain will make everything miserable. Yet, you force yourself to go, reasoning that if you don’t, your 2,000 baht ticket will be wasted. This everyday scenario, familiar to many Thais balancing spending and social obligations, illustrates the psychological trap known as the “sunk cost fallacy.” It is a common bias that leads people to continue investing time, money, or effort into a decision even when doing so no longer serves their best interest, all because they want to justify past, irretrievable investments. In a society where respect for personal sacrifice and resourcefulness is highly valued, understanding this phenomenon carries deep significance for both individual Thais and the nation as a whole.